Friendships Ending??

At what point in your life do you give up on a Friendship? I have a friend from HS who was my "best" friend for 2 years that has asked me to be in her wedding this summer, as her maid of honor. We have only talked to each other if it has involved her wedding for the last 2 years. I know that if she asked me to day to be her maid of honor I would decline but 2 years ago we were still friends. I have only seen her 3 or 4 times in the last 6 years. I hate the guy she is marrying, he has beat her twice, been divorced twice, has a daughter from a previous marriage, has declared bankruptcy, is 6 years older than her etc. I am dreading her wedding, the whole experience makes me just want to call her and drop out. I've already bought my $170 dress that I look TERRIBLE in, its super low cut and will expose a nipple at some point in the night...and the $40 stripper heels to match it, 4" platform glittered silver heels. I am skipping her bridal shower, the Sunday after my brothers wedding 4 hours away from Springfield so I can't justify a 8 hour drive in 1 day for 3 hours of shower? Her bachlorette party is in Memphis for 1 weekend, 2 nights 7 hours away on a weekend I'm suppose to work the Saturday of so I don't know if I will even be able to make that. Her wedding is in STL so I will have to take a Friday, at least afternoon, off to get to the rehersal in time. The whole thing seems like a huge drain on me, I don't associate with HS anymore and don't want to. The few times I have seen her in the past few years or any conversations have all involved what has happened in HS or to people we know from HS, she is absolutely stuck in the past and I have completely moved forward. I have an entire life seperate from my past, I've grown up and moved on. I just feel like she is a friend from a lifetime ago. I'm not asking her to stand next to me for my wedding, I'm not even sure I'll invite her to the wedding or the reception... I truly feel like she is no longer a friend and I'm not sure how I go about this all, do I pretend everything is great and stand up next to her at her wedding supporting a wedding I don't believe in for a girl I don't even know anymore or do I just fess up to how I feel now and how ridiculous I feel to be the maid of honor in a wedding for a girl I don't feel like I'm friends with anymore. I feel like the wedding is all that matters to her and she doesn't care about me anymore either. I know that if I step down, our friendship will be over. I hate to burn a bridge but if the bridge is already falling apart does burning it really cause much damange?

Wedding Crazy

I have never been in a wedding before. This year I will be in THREE and I have another one coming up in May 2012. Is this a sign that I'm getting old? ABSOLUTELY! My best friend for life just announced her engagement today and there isnt a person I could be happier for. She has been my neighbor, dance partner, best friend, classmate, etc. for 23 years. We have gone to the same church, same school, same dance class together. We have spent months not speaking because of busy lives but regardless of how long we go without talking or what happens whenever we do pick up the phone to talk to each other, it's like things never changed. We still walk into each others houses like we live there, we can tell each other anything and not have to worry about making the person mad. We are a set of people that have no secrets and a strange bond by the fact that we are very similar. Her mother is my confirmation sponsor, my mom is hers, I am her sons Godmother and she will be mine when I have kids. She is my maid-of-honor and I will be hers. It's a true friendship and whenever I read things about "the sister I never had" or "true friendships last forever" I know that she is my true friend. I know that without a doubt in 20 years we will still be doing wine night via skype because no matter how far apart we live from each other or how often we don't get to talk to each other, we will be best friends forever.

Return

I'm thinking about making a comeback. I really do like to write and I don't even care if anyone reads it I completely understand if no one does, I'm not the best writter. I'M GETTING MARRIED! In exactly 191 days I will be agreeing to spend the rest of my life with one man. The idea freaks me out at times and than at other times I wonder what exactly will be changing.