So my best friend just got engaged today... I am extremely happy for her because I know this is what she wants but at the same time, how do I agree to be a Maid of Honor in a wedding I don't support.
This is her second engagement, the first one I knew would not last, she was living in Mississippi and he lived in Wisconsin and they had only known each other a few months. So this one is at least better than that one, I think...
This will be his 3rd marriage, he is 29, she is 22. I don't know why his first marriage ended but he has a daughter whose 9?? and gets along great with Brandi. His second wife decided she would rather be a dyke than be married to him and was actually friends with Brandi thru the whole divorce so it was a real big deal for her to start dating him.
Now don't get me wrong, he is a great guy and we've always gotten along well. He's been dating Brandi for over a year now...about and they live together. But my problem with him is more than the much older, twice divorced with a kid deal. My issue is from the fact that last summer we were going to Vegas for a friends bachelorette party and Kaleb put his foot down and said 'no' we wouldn't be going without him because he didn't trust Brandi. They broke up over that deal and he eventually relaxed and came back to her and she took him back. However that isn't even my biggest problem. At the end of March I actually wrote a post about this on my xanga. And here is the exerpt.
"My best friend since 9th grade is dating a man who abuses her. Her status on Sunday was "BT K****s not the guy u think he is...a concussion ...2 times thrown up against the wall and kicked in the face...thats what i live with...not so good huh? Yesterday at 12:05am" She changed her status to single and told me she was really sore and would call me later that day to talk about it. She never called. They live together and I sadly knew what would happen. His status today was "KS is saying some relationships are worth fighting for but sometimes changes need to be made for them to work and they usually need to start w good ole number 1!! 5:31pm" Not even 30 hours later and they are back together!! She told me this is not the first time he has beat her. I'm sorry but this is NOT okay!! And sadly I feel like I can't be best friends with a girl who doesn't repect herself and I know that I can never sit in the same room as him again. He has always been jealous, he wouldn't let us go to Las Vegas without him because he didn't trust her and he never has. He said he would change than because they had broken up but lets face it, you can't change a man like that, not if you keep coming back to him."
Which is why not even 6 weeks after he beat her up, for the second time, her getting engaged to him worries me. I love her very much and don't want anything to happen to her but I also don't want to lose her as a friend if I question her relationship and brand new engagement. She is a very strong woman and I just hope she is making the right decision.
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Wow, that's scary. She definitely needs to not be engaged to someone like that - in fact, she needs to run for the hills! He is trying to make up for beating her, and it's just a ticking time bomb until he beats her again. This is very scary. I hope she realizes she is worth more than that.
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