Mothers

After spending a day with Blakes mom and than my Mom, I am thankful for my Mom. Blake's little brother obviously just got home 2 weeks ago from rehab for smoking pot and popping prescription pills. I realize that rehab is not something to take jokingly but it seems like everyone must now cater to Taylor. Anything and everything Taylor wants to do, he gets and it drives his older siblings insane. Taylor got a "Welcome Home" from rehab ice cream cake from dairy queen. Blake's mom FREAKED out on Blake for trying to pack a cooler of beer to take to see the fireworks show and drink with his father, at 24 he got scolded like a little kid. She claimed that the smell of alcohol might make Taylor relapse...Taylor only drank once or twice and said he hated the taste of alcohol, so obviously the beer isn't going to make him go pop pills. They treat their 17 year old like he is still 5 and if she was my mom I would want to kill her. Also I realized this weekend that the lady never sits down, she is ALWAYS dusting, sweeping, doing dishes, picking up stuff, doing laundry. I realize in a house of 5 people maybe laundry was a staple but only 3 of them live there now. She made a comment that she couldn't imagine not having a large washing machine anymore because of how much laundry she does. My mom claimed at the height to only do about 11 loads of laundry a week for 4 people, in her small washer. So even for Donna that should only average 9 loads a week now or 15 if everyone is home (which they never are) so is a large washer that different?

From the 4th of July at Blake's family, I realized how much different my mom is from Donna. My mom has a messy house, there are piles everywhere, she doesn't always vaccum and dishes can sit on the counter for days before getting washed. The mess annoys me but my mom once said that she didn't want her kids to remember her for always having a broom in her hand, and she did that. I remember PLAYING with my mom when I was little, and never having to worry about the mess in my room or cleaning up the kitchen. I appreciate that now, Donna is always cleaning and never around her children until that all is done even when they are only home for 2-3 days a month now. My mom is much less materialistic and judging, she doesn't walk into a room and go wow that color doesn't match or you look like you've gained some weight. She doesn't care what brand your shoes are or how much you paid for your haircut. My mom has prided herself on being very independant, she can change a light fixture (not just a bulb) she doesn't mind getting dirty, she will try anything and see if she can figure it out. She helped me install tile in my bathroom and put in a new toilet!! Donna paid someone to do that for her bathroom, even her husband didn't do that. My mom is not as close with her family as Donna. Donna's family gets together at least once a month and she talks to them about EVERYTHING! But my Mom has friends, people who aren't family that she spends time with, goes on vacation, eat dinner and talk on the phone, I've noticed recently that Donna does not hang out with anyone that is not a family member except for the lady she works with, and that I am pretty sure is only work related.

I love Donna and am not saying that everything she does is wrong, to each its own. I just know that I've learned to appreciate my Mother that much more. Also FYI You should look at the cool pictures my mom painted for my new upcoming God Son's room while she was down here yesterday. She use to paint all the time and is really good at it, I am so glad she got to do some stuff for Hannah's baby.