"Every woman has the exact love life she wants."

The Wedding Date with Debra Messing (Grace from Will & Grace.) was on and I love that movie. This is a rather famous quote from the movie. I found myself wondering if its true. Does my bestfriend want to be in love with a man who beats her and is really controling? Do I want to be in a relationship with a man who is a slob and super cheap? Did my mom want to be in a relationship with a man who worked too much? What makes every womans relationship the one she wants? Is it because by not doing anything to change things we are settling for what we have? Does this also mean that I have the exact job, family relationships, daily living, pants size, fitness level, etc that I want??