Families

Is it possible to be in love with a guy and want to spend the rest of your life with him if you think his entire family is nuts? Please let me explain. I just got a call from Jordan (Blakes younger sister whose 21) 's ex-boyfriend, who she still is talking & sleeping with... Andrew, he texts me a lot and calls me whenever he is really drunk to talk about Jordan. He is still in love with her, and I know she still likes him but she is always trying to make him jealous and he treated her like shit a few years ago when they were dating, dumping her just before the last family cruise. So he is talking to me and mentions that she isn't suppose to be drinking and the prosecutor wants to put her in jail for 5 days because of her second DWI...I go WHAT?? We didn't know anything about the 2nd DWI, her first one was when she was 18 and trying to drive from KC to COMO after drinking a 5th of Vodka alone. She totalled her car 30 miles outside of Columbia and blew a 2.71 (legal limit is .08 unless you are under 21, which she was, and than it is a .02) I have a friend who went to the hospital to have her stomach pumped for a 2.17. After her first DWI she spent a weekend at a mandatory Alcohol Intervention, where her counselors told her she was an Alcoholic and should never drink again. So apparently Andrew than let the beans spill to me because we weren't suppose to know about the 2nd one. He said her parents know because they are footing the bill for her 4 hours, 3 days a week for 6 months of "outpatient rehab" for Alcohol. She got her DWI mid-march (right before she turned 21) and had to sign paperwork that she wouldn't drink for 6 months. She works at 2 bars and is a bartender at one of them, she drinks at least 4 nights a week and does not have a stop button to her drinking, she will drink until she blacks out- EVERY TIME! So Andrew said he was fed up with her shit, which I don't blame him but that is another story. So Blake's sister got her 2nd DWI in 3 years and before she is even 21... her parents just pretend that nothing is wrong and allow her to continue drinking. I am pretty sure after 1st DWI my Mom would have cut me off from all financial assistance, she is now at DWI w/ a $700/month allowance and now getting her "rehab" paid for.
Taylor, Blakes brother also has serious drug issues, at age 17, and was bought an $800/dog and sent to rehab just this past year. After failing numerous drug tests and still being allowed to go out with his friends without any punishments when he returned home, read past posts for more details on Taylors issues. I already sometimes get frustated with how Donna treats her children, they are essentially adults and being treated as small children because she favors them so much. And the way she is so "honest" and picky about details that seem so unimportant. So now I am looking at a family that obviously has serious addiction problems, an alcoholic and a druggie...and it makes me wonder about Blake. I know he has his issues and I get really frustated with him at time but he seems so "normal" compared to his siblings, should he have an addiction? Yes he drinks but not anything compared to what it was when he was 21, he can go out and have 4 or 5 beers and than go home. He doesn't drink unless someone else is drinking and is never more than 3 or 4 times a month now. He has smoked pot, I've seen it, but not any for the last 3 years of our relationship and maybe 2 times in all. He doesn't have a porn addiction, he doesn't have a food addiction. He loves TV but I don't think that is an addiction. He likes to gamble but never plays more than Nickel slots because he's afraid to lose his money. Can saving money and being a cheap ass be an addiction? If so that is his and I don't really have a problem with that. I thought my divorced parents who still spend time together and talk daily made my family a weird one but nothing is compared to the family that belongs on VH1 for how many addictions Dr.Drew would love to disect.